Heart to Heart Mentoring

mentoring pictureTitus 2:3-5 speaks of a church where women learn from other women "to teach what is good...so that God's message will not be slandered." One of the most meaningful and encouraging friendships that can exist is of a woman sharing her life and faith with another woman in the busyness of everyday life. Experiencing the joys and pains of everyday life together builds a deep bond between both women while drawing them closer to God.

Mentoring doesn't have to be complicated, just sharing life experience over a cup of coffee or tea with some Christ-centered conversation. It's all about cultivating a friendship in the midst of what is already going on in our lives.

If you are interested in being in a mentoring relationship either as a mentor or as the person being mentored, please contact Stacey Sparks at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

It's already October! Four months have passed since our last letter, already a season come and gone! The concept of seasons has been on my mind a lot as of late, perhaps it's the sudden chill and fall already well upon us with hints of winter. I joke that my husband Jeremy and I were "winter people," until we had kids...we got married in February, our honeymoon was up the North Coast of Minnesota! But winter has taken on new meaning with three small children. In this particular season of our lives, winter means something much different that than newlywed trip nearly 12 years ago.

Seasons, they come and go, and would you know that it's a very biblical concept to embrace life in seasons? One of the most beautiful passages of the Bible to me, Ecclesiastes 3, speaks to this. Verse 1 declares, "For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:"

So, as we settle back into routine, as we wave farewell to summer, embrace fleeting fall in its brilliance, and prepare for winter in all of its splendor, and yes, difficulty - let us take a moment to reflect on our own and I hope with each other...What season are we in spiritually perhaps? What might God be doing?

To be honest, currently I am in an uncomfortable season, wrestling with some deep spiritual concepts. It's not a preferred place, but you know, I am OK and even thankful to God for the struggle... because He is in it. "For this is a season," I can remind myself...and I know, they come and go, each one with its unique glories and unique trials, to do its work in my life for His glory, and He will see me through, He does not come and go.

I was reminded of this holding my almost 2 year old daughter's hand at High Cliff today, she was having difficultly walking, tripping often and so I gripped her hand and held on, not annoyed by her stumbling, but wanting to help her walk and not fall, saying "I've got you sweetie"...and in that moment HE spoke to my heart. You see, I am like a 2 year old, trying to walk, many times very clumsily, but He sees the path, He navigates it with no difficulty and His hand is there for me, though I may stumble over rocks and trials, He will hold me up in love.

So what season are you in? What path might He be leading you on, joyful or painful? It's funny, the author of Ecclesiastes even exemplifies seasons in his writing, chapter 1 starts out with something that might resonate in our hearts, "everything feels meaningless! what is the point?" How many of us have had that cry our heart in the cold winters of our soul? And yet like a warm spring breeze beckoning freedom, chapter 3 speaks of each season being in God's hands, of the sovereignty of God, v11 says "He has made everything beautiful in its time..."

Let's get back together ladies, lets reflect on the seasons, but also on the one who makes them all and is constant. Let's talk with each other on where we are at, even what season our mentoring relationship might be in (for some of you it is year 3!), let us consider how we can encourage one another (which often may mean just listening and praying, and listening some more).

Please send me an email and let me know how you are doing in your relationships, I'd love to hear back from you.



Scripture: Ecclesiastes 3

Reading for Reflection:
http://www.feminagirls.com/2011/10/19/middle-age-temptations/  -- please note that I love this article, but "Counter Measure 1: ...Obey him (husband). In everything." in my opinion is poorly worded. Our husbands should be respected, but there is only one God in our lives whom we obey in everything. All else are human, and can even ask us to sin, we must always go to God on how He wishes us to honor our husbands and others, and obey Him (upper case H), in everything.

Questions for reflection/discussion:

  • How do you feel about seasons, what season do you feel you are in spiritually right now?
  • What season might your mentoring relationship be in? How can you encourage one another?
  • Take time to set a new schedule with one another, it is easy to be out of practice with summer - and take time to PRAY with one another!

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